When did we learn to stop trying to fail?
Sweet Pea’s been failing a lot over the 22 months she’s been on this planet.
She failed to breathe on her own as soon as her umbilical cord was cut.
She failed to latch properly when I tried to breastfeed her.
She failed to roll over when she tried.
She failed to lift her head when she was on her stomach.
She failed to stand on her own when we put her on her feet.
She failed to crawl when she tried to move closer to us.
She failed to walk when she took a step forward.
She failed to run when she wanted to get closer, fast.
She failed to get her way when I told her “No.”
But you know what?
Everything she failed at, she can now do.
She can roll over.
She can lift her head.
She can stand.
She can walk.
She can run. (Like ruuuuun.)
And she eventually gets her way even when we tell her “No.”
She can do all these things now because she keeps trying.
She knows what she wants, and she keeps going for it. Whether that means falling a thousand times or getting rejected a million times, she just Keeps.On.Going. Babies just do, without worrying about failure.
We should be so inspired.
When did we learn to stop failing? Why is it such a bad thing?
When did we learn to give up and just settle?
When did it become okay for us to live the BACKUP PLAN?
Was it because we got too scared? Too comfortable?
Because some jerkstore said we weren’t good enough? Smart enough? Strong enough? Pretty enough? Skinny enough? Rich enough?
Was it because we failed that one time and didn’t try again?
I read something a while back about someone comparing failure to a science experiment. When scientists conduct an experiment, they have a hypothesis that they need to prove. They go through all these steps involving all this time and research and equipment – and at the end of it all – have their hypothesis proven wrong. Yet it isn’t considered a bad thing. It just gets them that much closer to figuring out what will work.
And then they try again, with a new hypothesis and understanding.
The reason that Sweet Pea gets what she wants is because she’s persistent, determined, and takes the action needed to get it.
The reason that Sweet Pea is breathing is because she was surrounded by loving people who said “Yes, You Can” and helped her do whatever was needed to get there.
The secret to success?
Keep failing and get rid of the dicks in your life who tell you to stop. Eventually those failures will stop being failures, and become achievements.
Go out and fail today, you’re allowed.